The trauma is not your fault, but recovering is your responsibility.
What happened to you wasn’t your fault. It wasn’t something you asked for, it wasn’t something you deserved. What happened to you is not right. You were simply collateral damage from someone else’s war, an innocent who was destroyed. We are all traumatized by life, some of us from wrongdoing, others from unprocessed pain and hidden emotions. Regardless of the source, we are handed a game of cards and are sometimes not a winning hand. However, what we cannot forget is that recovery is up to us. Healing is our responsibility because if it were not, an unfair circumstance would become an unlived life. Recovering is our responsibility because we have only one life and one opportunity; because if we want to improve, we cannot sit and wait, nobody will do it for us; because we have the power to heal our wounds; because “healing” is transforming us and we are getting stronger every day. Healing means metabolizing pain. So we are more willing to dare, take risks, and dream of wider horizons, those we never thought we would reach. We don’t realize that in that wound are the most important lessons of our life, the most fertile ground on which we can begin to build whatever we really want. We are not made to get through life unscathed. We do not intend to reach the finish line without leaving marks, clean and bored. Life hurts us all in different ways, but it is the way we respond that determines whether a trauma becomes a tragedy or the beginning of the story of a victim who has become the hero.